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Sunday, May 6, 2012

Vulnerability Weakness or Strength?

If you believe vulnerability is a weakness (many do), think again. Brene Brown, has been researching vulnerability, courage, worthiness and shame for over 10 years. She's found that vulnerability is actually a measurement of courage. 

Vulnerability is being responsive, open, authentic and connected to our humanity. It is not a popular word in business. However, if vulnerability is "the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change" isn't it worth exploring?

To what degree do you:
  • Show up the same at work and at home
  • Believe you are good enough
  • Go for progress (instead of perfection)
  • Celebrate your imperfections
  • Converse without technology between you
  • Ask for help
  • Laugh at your foibles
  • Tell the truth
  • Look people in the eye
  • Witness discomfort (instead of numbing)
  • Take risks 
  • Learn from failures (instead of burying mistakes) 
  • Step out (instead of hiding)
  • Apologize
  • Forgive 
  • Embrace uncertainty
  • Allow yourself to be seen
  • Notice how the universe supports and inspires you
  • Spread kindness
Brown believes shame is one reason we fear vulnerability. Shame distorts the very connection and power we already have. In her Ted Talks (see below for links) she differentiates between shame and guilt. Shame = I am bad. Guilt = I did something bad. Shame is highly correlated to addiction, depression, violence, aggression, eating disorders and bullying. 

What if shame is a lie and vulnerability is a good thing for your career? your leadership? your team?

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