Listening is different than hearing so it's important to check for understanding. Try the following and notice what happens with your impact at work:
- May I check my communication...?
- What did you hear me say?
- Just so we are aligned, may I check out what you interpreted?"
- To help me be sure I communicated clearly would you let me know what you heard?
- Since it was hard for me to say that, would you share what you picked up?